What people in their 30s wish they'd known while dating in their 20s…
1. Try being friends with someone first--When you're in your twenties, you don't take very much time to get to know a person. If you're physically attracted and that attraction is mutual, the relationship happens quickly. But that doesn't give you time to find potential flaws or even realize if you liked them past the lust stages. SO you find yourself in and out of relationships. In your thirties you'll notice you're much more relaxed and patient.
2. Push through your fear of rejection--Ego is a person's worst enemy and it stops you from approaching the person you want all because you're afraid of rejection or worried you're not good enough. Push the envelope and see what's possible for yourself; go talk to anyone and everyone that you feel like. If they're not interested, it's not a reflection on you because they don't even know you. Once you start getting some positive feedback, you get rejected less and less, then the process becomes a lot easier and turns into something fun and enjoyable.
3. Don't let The One get away just because you're young--Grab a good thing when you see it and don't let go. If you do, don't give up, you may be lucky enough to get a second chance.
4. Celebrate how you feel about your mate--There comes a time in every person's life when you look at the person you're dating and realize that they are the single greatest thing that's ever happened to you. And when you do, don't be afraid to tell them and let others know how you feel, too. They will appreciate it.
What people in their 40s wish they'd known while dating in their 30s…
1. That "must-have" checklist is keeping you from The One--Get rid of your checklist of what you think you want in a partner. You don't always know what you need. Open yourself to dating men of all types.
2. Realize that "boring" isn't always bad--Find someone boring! It's not actually that the person is entirely that way. But someone who you see as boring might be the outlet that helps you start to settle down and see who you really are. Partying at bars and looking for The One there will jade you. Hanging out with a simple, boring individual will make you see that there's more to life than who's buying the next round.
3. After getting your heart broken, you will meet someone else—The pain you feel will end. And you may not believe it, but you're just six months away from feeling better and you're only a year away from meeting someone fantastic.
4. Don't bother staying in a drama-filled relationship--If the relationship isn't working and there's a lot of drama after a year, then you need to let it go.
What people in their 50s wish they'd known while dating in their 40s…
1. Don't jump from one marriage to another--You'll be a much stronger person when you stop being afraid of being alone. Having a person to rescue you feels great at the time, but you're not in the best place to see them clearly. That sets you up for disaster down the line.
2. Maintain your platonic friendships--When you find yourself ready to date again, platonic friends will be more than happy to set you up with someone. Good friends aren't going to set you up with a jerk.
3. Use caution if you have conflicting ideas about kids—If you're a man, be careful of single women in their 30s; they may just want to have a baby. Instead, consider dating women in their early 40s. They're sincerely looking to be in a relationship. Regardless of their stage in life, take your time and look for something that meets both people's needs, hopes and desires.
What people in their 60s wish they'd known while dating in their 50s…
1. Date someone your own age--Dating people close to your own age sometimes works best. Not having to explain the world you grew up in makes connecting easier and more meaningful. And you don't need a young person to make you feel good about aging.
2. Date around to figure out exactly what you want--Date far and wide and do not stop dating too quickly! Get to know yourself and your goals very well before you commit to one person for the rest of your life.
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